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Top Ten Fears
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Denise Michaels
1. Fear of the Edge
Taking risk means leaving our comfort zone and moving
into our learning zone. Risking helps us grow and expands our comfort
zone. When you risk you’re at the limits of your “growing edge.” This
edge can elicit fear, anxiety, even panic. When this happens, many
people return to their comfort zone. Others find the courage to break
through to their growing edge. How can you motivate yourself to make
that final leap? “Feel the Fear and do it Anyway” says Susan Jeffers, in
her book by the same name.
Fear is actually a signal that you are risking and
growing. Our support systems include friends and family, colleagues or
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MarketingForHer.com These support systems can gently push us over the
EDGE supporting us in the process.
2. Fear of Failure:
We need to redefine our view of failure as a normal part
of the risking process. Failure simply tells us to try a different
approach...take a different step...talk to someone else...get
information elsewhere. Failure is a natural part of the learning
process. Look at your fear of failure as an opportunity for learning and
growth as well as a signal that it’s time to look for a new way to solve
a problem.
3. Fear of Success:
Success often means we must make great change...and this
can block us from accepting success. In a well-know study, sociologist
Matina Horner found that women fear success because it often meant a
loss of significant relationships. Developing a strong sense of self
will help you be flexible and open to change. Open yourself to different
relationships and everything success may bring into your life.
4. Fear of Loss:
Risking often means letting go and losing. Losing
significant relationships, material things, employment situations,
important locations, the known. Trust that the space created because of
this loss will attract new and better things into your life. As one door
closes another opens. As you lessen your grip on the familiar you will
grasp newer things that are more in alignment with who you are becoming
as a success.
5. Fear of Loss of Self:
Risking can change your self identify. This can be
frightening and disorienting. Low self esteem can keep us clinging to an
out-moded sense of self. Find ways to continually build your self-esteem
so you will have the courage to risk. Working with our Rich Living
SuccessMap Coaching System can help you to build your self esteem, your
courage and your sense of belief in yourself and your abilities.
6. Fear of the Unknown:
We are creatures of habit. Most of us feel comfortable
with the familiar, the known. At the same time, we’re also excited by
change and possibility. Remember the thrill of adventure and know that
each and every time you risk you are developing your “risk muscles”. You
must trust that through risking you have an opportunity to grow, change,
evolve, and possibly transform yourself into someone much greater.
7. Fear of Adversity:
Risking often involves taking steps that are unpopular,
which can create adversarial conditions. No one wants to <rock the
boat>; we avoid conflict at all costs. When we risk we face obstacles.
Paul Stoltz, in his book “Adversity Quotient”, suggests seeing obstacles
as opportunities rather than roadblocks. He identifies three types of
people: quitters, campers, and climbers. Quitters stop risking once they
hit a challenge; campers risk a little longer but eventually camp out
and remain in their comfort zone; climbers risk and grow throughout
their lives. Which type are you?
Negative outcomes from past risking experiences can keep
you stuck. Yet if you can view past obstacles as opportunities for
learning, as building blocks of your risk muscle development, that
attitude will help you in your current risking process.
8. Fear of Change:
Change is difficult; it takes lots of effort to change
habitual behaviors and reactions. Researchers have learned that “brain
grooves” are created throughout our lifetime based on our routine
behaviors. These grooves simplify your life; they are comfortable and
familiar. Change means getting out of the groove which is not always
easy. It takes patience, persistence and courage to face the fear of
change.
9. Fear of Rejection:
No one likes to be disliked, criticized or feel
disapproval. Often when you risk you face rejection from others because
your risking has an impact on their lives and may create unwelcome
changes. Be a little selfish. Accept that it’s finally time to take care
of yourself first and not avoid actions that are necessary for you to
grow and change just because someone else is rejecting you or might
reject you.
10. Fear of the Inner Critic:
Sometimes called “monkey chatter,” the inner critic
verbalizes negative self talk which can effectively block you from
taking risks. It’s that voice inside that says, “Who do you think you
are?” and worse. A good way to silence your inner critic is to
counteract its effects by using positive self talk and affirmations.
Repetition is the key to turning away incessant monkey chatter and
turning it into the positive.
Denise Michaels, The Marketing Maven is Founder of
MarketingforHer and a marketing expert with over two decades
experience in advertising, public relations, market research, planning
and sales. She’s worked closely with top seminar leaders and self-help
authors. Her unique 3-day “NO-Fluff Marketing Magic” workshop is an
awesome way you can learn exciting strategies to get your potential
customers to happily say “yes” to your products/services.
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